Part 4: A Tough Message from a Guy Who Says He’s Not So Tough
This is Part 4 in an undetermined number of posts in this blog’s special coverage of THE CLEVELAND INCIDENT.
Given: If the female in this incident had behaved exactly the same way with Mr. Hughes, the black bus driver, and she had been ANYTHING besides black, no punch would have been thrown.
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The(ir) Curse
Guest Post by Sonny
“No more megaphones in our hands about the abuse of black males by police officers until this incorrect intention toward black males’ biggest supporters—black females— stops. Until black males stop their mistreatment of black females—and that includes the denial of the mistreatment—black males DO NOT DESERVE to have a halt to their mistreatment by white folks.”
I am not a tough guy, never been one and don`t claim to be. Ain`t from a rough neighborhood either. I am no expert at standing up for black females and no expert at military tactics either. No big time intellectual, nor do I have major accomplishments to show for my time.
It’s not easy taking this kind of stand because it is the most sensitive for black males and black females.
For black males: Standing up and risking what harm might come to them for protecting black females–for the ones who care to do so.
For black females: Risking all that matters the most–the circle, what little support you have and then– abandonment. Next, isolation, and extra mistreatment from everyone.
This is big.
Most black males will express unrestrained contempt for the insistence that this be done. Others will sit on the side lines, watch, and say nothing. Some will ride both sides of the fence.
But, Judgement will be delivered by The Creator either way. This is the “curse” our “curse”. This confrontation is necessary. Maybe we can man-up, suck it up and be big enough to stop arguing black females down on this and savor what little self respect we have left. We are so deathly afraid of where this might lead (if we are being honest). But, how is that different then any other day? Plus, The Creator would not confront us with this if we could not handle it. “Easier said then done?” “YES.” But, it won’t be done until we at least start saying it.
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Cree’s note: That beginning quote is mine taken from a comment I made on Facebook. This piece was presented to me already posted on Sonny’s FB page last night. I had no idea it was being written. Better than a new car or house is this.
October 20, 2012 at 6:26 pm
LBM,
The open letter can be found at: http://www.theblackwomansagenda.com/Open-Letter-To-Black-Men.html
October 20, 2012 at 6:04 pm
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October 20, 2012 at 3:06 pm
CREE, that open letter from Bilal Sankofa to Black males was from Sister Letava’s sight.
October 20, 2012 at 1:11 pm
Remember the postal worker physically assaulted by a white woman. Notice the calm, restraint, and quiet strength in the face of a white female racist. Proportionate response to white tacky behavior in that given situation.
October 20, 2012 at 12:46 pm
Kushite Prince (and other comments(, please forgive me for not replying as fully as my mind and heart direct me. I must travel without access to the web. I will reply just as soon as I can.
October 20, 2012 at 11:00 am
@ Sonny
“For black males: Standing up and risking what harm might come to them for protecting black females–for the ones who care to do so.
For black females: Risking all that matters the most–the circle, what little support you have and then– abandonment. Next, isolation, and extra mistreatment from everyone.”
I think this is the real test for all of us. But we are a people who are at the crossroads. It’s time to draw the line in the sand. if we really want to defeat and overcome white supremacy–we have to decide where we stand. Those who want to fight for the other team should let it be known. No time for “pussy-footing” around. What we face in this country and abroad is very SERIOUS. Our very survival is at stake. We need to end this silly ass gender war. Once we get past that,then we can move forward.
All hands on deck! I’m in. Let’s go!
October 20, 2012 at 8:55 am
I still haven’t nor do i intend to watch the video you call the cleveland incident. where i live if a bus passenger is being unruly,the driver can push a button and a 911 msg is shown on the outside of the bus ,without the passengers knowledge. i’m sure the cleveland bus system has similar setups. if the female was other than black,reminds me of something my niece told me sometime ago. she was on the subway and she witnessed a brother being shoved by a female of indian(asian continent) descent. this wasn’t just a shove,this was a hockey body check that nearly knocked him down. yet the brother laughed it off. my niece knew had it been her or any other sister a physical altercation would’ve happened,profanity usage towards her or both. since she wasn’t threatening his life from what i’ve read it shouldn’t have escalated.
October 20, 2012 at 8:53 am
CREE:
The black male female dynamic is so tumultuous, I don’t know where it will lead if we begin to have honest dialogue. One thing is for sure though:
We must begin this dialogue if we’re going to heal from this plantation.
October 20, 2012 at 3:39 am
Sister Letava Mabilijengo on men holding other men accountable.